Is Online Dating for You? Tips for Baby Boomers

If you’re single again and feel that you’re just not meeting the right person through your regular channels, perhaps it’s time to consider online dating. Online dating has become hugely popular amongst all age groups because it offers you the opportunity to meet a large number of people without leaving the comfort of your home. Here are some things to consider when deciding if online dating is right for you.

1. Know what you’re looking for

The very first thing to mull over is the type of relationship you are looking for. There are sites for people looking for committed relationships and sites for people who are simply looking for a casual fling (usually referred to as “adult dating“). Before you choose a site and start building your profile, think about what you truly want… maybe it’s just friendship or maybe you would love to get married again. Knowing this ahead of time will make the process much easier.

2. Know your Budget

In the online dating world, there is a large spectrum of budget options – some sites are free, some inexpensive, and there are some that cost a fortune. There are pros and cons to each. Free sites tend to have a lot of junk profiles (people who aren’t really serious) where as expensive sites don’t necessarily guarantee results. Take some time upfront to explore both options as you consider what will work for your budget.

3. Consider Your Safety

Make sure you choose a site that demonstrates some consideration for your security. Your profile should only be available for members to see and there should be a published privacy policy on the site that outlines their commitment to keeping your personal information secure. Don’t publish your last name, address, or phone number in your profile – it’s not safe to give out such intimate details of your life. And be careful when emailing and chatting with people that you’re not giving away too many personal details. The reality is that scam artists use dating sites for illegal purposes so just be cautious.

4. Look into Compatibility Testing

If sifting through hundreds of online profiles doesn’t appeal to you, perhaps you might want to consider using a site that provides compatibility testing. From your responses the site will provide you a list of your most compatible matches. You’ll have a much smaller group to choose from but these people tend to be well-matched.

5. Get a referral

If any of your friends are using an online dating service, find out what they like and dislike about it. Getting a solid recommendation and personal referral could save you a ton of research.

6. Learn the Technology

When you finally choose your site, take some time learning how to use all the available features. Features like chat rooms and instant messaging can be a lot of fun so invest the time to get acquainted with them.

7. Pace Yourself

As soon as you make a connection with someone, it can be tempting to rush to the nearest restaurant to meet them face-to face. Take it slow and really enjoying building a foundation over the phone and email first.

8. Have fun

If you’re not having fun then what’s the point? Remember to keep it all in perspective and simply enjoy the process.

Aelicia J. Anderson

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