Adult Dating Online – How to Attract the Man You Want

If you’re a woman involved in adult dating online, one of the biggest challenges you face is finding the right way to present yourself so you attract the men you’re looking for without attracting the ones you want nothing to do with.  With that in mind, these tips will help you separate the lovers from the losers.

 Adult Dating Couple

Make a Good First Impression

In the online world of adult dating, your profile is his first impression of you. Don’t waste it by describing what you’re looking for in a man. He’s not reading your profile to find out what you want; he’s reading it to discover who you are. Use your profile to paint an accurate picture of your personality.

Your Picture is Important

Men are visual creatures, so the picture you post with your profile is vitally important and can actually determine the type of man who responds to it. If you’re looking for something casual and want nothing more than a one-night stand, a sexy pose in provocative attire is perfectly acceptable, especially in adult personals ads. Note that I didn’t say a vulgar pose in slutty attire. This will attract men with a completely different mindset. If that’s what you’re looking for, great, go for it. Just be aware ahead of time the sort of responses you’re likely to get.

Don’t Pretend to be Something You’re Not

Putting on an act is guaranteed to wind up in dismal failure. For one thing, it’s almost impossible to keep it up for an extended period of time, but more importantly, you want him to be interested in you as the person you are, not as some fantasy woman you’d like to be. Even when adult dating online, honesty counts.

Check Your Baggage at the Door

Leave your emotional baggage behind when you decide to begin looking again. If you just ‘can’t get over that he dumped me’, perhaps you’re not ready for someone new. You want to present a positive, upbeat attitude in your profile and your correspondence. Put your past in the past and leave it there.

Show Your Fun, Flirty and Adventurous Side

Hobbies and interests are important, after all, common interests draw people together in the first place.  If you enjoy watching college football, this is much more likely to attract men to your profile than listing your hobbies as crocheting or shopping for shoes. If you’re physically active (and if you’re not, you should be), mention those activities you enjoy, particularly the ones that might be shared by men, such as roller blading or surfing, not just Pilates or aerobics. Include activities you’d like to try but haven’t yet, like sky diving or rock climbing. Invite him into a chat room to discuss.

Date Like a Man

Open your mind to the possibilities of dating more than one guy at a time. If you pin all your hopes on just one, if that doesn’t work out for you, disappointment is sure to follow. Keep your options open and enjoy the attention of several men, instead of focusing solely on finding ‘Mr. Right’.  Until he comes along, there’s a lot of fun to be had with ‘Mr. Right Now’.

Aelicia :)

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